The timeless question: which comes first, the chicken or the egg? A question that has puzzled man for ages, unfortunately there is no definitive answer. Only God the Father, knows for sure. But this riddle brought to mind another question: which comes first, Love or Trust?
Love and Trust are intertwined. To love someone deeply, you must trust them completely, and to trust someone, you often find yourself growing in love or at the very least fond of them. Trust, defined as a noun, involves reliance on someone’s character, ability, or truthfulness. As a verb, it’s about placing confidence in and hoping for their sincerity. On the other hand, Love, as a noun, is a strong affection arising from kinship or personal ties, including romantic attraction. As a verb, it means cherishing and feeling tenderly towards someone.
So, does one rely on a person’s character before developing affection and cherishing them? Or does love come first, leading to the willingness to trust? It defies simple logic because to love someone, you must trust them, yet to trust someone, you must have some affection for them.
Loving oneself seems natural; we care for ourselves, attend to our needs, and hold ourselves dear. However, trusting oneself can be a different matter. For me, self-doubt clouds decisions of the heart. Though I can make practical choices with confidence, but matters of the heart become daunting. Although I am not currently faced with the prospect of falling in love, a chance encounter with someone has be me asking myself “What if”. Can I trust myself to make the right decision? After all, past experiences have yielded less than stellar results. What is concerning to me is this uncertainty about trusting myself it has me asking myself if it has become a barrier to embracing love?
So, back to the original question: which comes first, Trust or Love? In truth, there’s no definite answer. Embracing love may require learning to trust myself. Only time can reveal the answer to this heartfelt puzzle.
Do I trust first and then love? Or do I love first and then trust? “I can’t think about this now, I’ll go crazy if I do. I’ll think about it tomorrow.” Scarlett O’Hara