Saying goodbye is difficult. Whether it’s due to relocation, tragic circumstances like death or divorce, or simply the natural ebb and flow of relationships, it’s never easy.
In this particular month, I find myself bidding farewell to two individuals who have been a part of my life for a season. One is a close friend who resides in the same building but is now moving away with her family. Being significantly older and facing serious health issues, her departure leaves a void in my life. I will miss her Midwestern charm and her quick wit. While I joke about visiting her in her new home, we know the likelihood of that happening is slim. Initially, we may maintain regular communication through texts or calls, but over time, it will fade to sporadic contact. Perhaps an occasional Christmas card will keep our connection alive, but eventually, we will drift apart.
The other person I must bid farewell to is my trusted doctor, whom I have relied on for approximately a decade. She provided invaluable support during my journey of grieving the loss of my mentor to cancer. As my healthcare provider, confidant, and source of encouragement, she guided me through a injuries, difficult divorce and weeks of sleepless nights. Her prompt responses to emails and willingness to address my countless questions have been invaluable. I wonder if I will ever find another doctor like her, and saying goodbye to her this month will undoubtedly be heart-wrenching.
Reflecting on the past few years, I realize I have experienced the loss of many loved ones. My dear aunt succumbed to a prolonged illness, and I had to say goodbye to a husband, his family, and my church community due to divorce. Additionally, I lost three cherished friends when I relocated 40 miles away to be closer to my daughter.
When I shared with a close friend that I tend to cry at a “drop of a hat” He caringly said ” we don’t have to drop the hat …. so you don’t have to cry.” I will do my best to hold back my emotions when I bid my moving friend a final farewell. However, I can’t make the same promise when the time comes to say goodbye to my doctor. Nevertheless, I genuinely wish both of them well and pray for their happiness. And perhaps, I’ll attempt to keep my emotions in check and avoid “dropping the hat” so frequently.