If you look in Webster’s dictionary, the third definition of “Respect” is as follows: a) a strong or special regard, akin to ESTEEM, b) the characteristic or state of being held in high esteem, c) respects in plural form, denoting expressions of elevated regard or deference. To esteem, is to assign value, holding in high regard, and treasure. So, what does the respect truly entail within interpersonal relationships? Far too frequently, I observe instances illustrating the absence of respect. These manifest as harsh words, disdainful attitudes, an absence of concern, and a disregard for the feelings of others. Where as when, you respect your partner you value them as individuals, you hold treasure them, and desire the best for them.
I am firmly convinced that relationships cannot endure without respect. Once respect is forfeited, it’s only a matter of time before the relationship deteriorates. I’m of the belief that love cannot genuinely exist without respect. I think respect is one of the fundamental pillars supporting love. If you hold affection for someone, respect becomes an inherent component. But I question is it possible to rekindle lost respect? In other words, if love was once present but respect eroded, can respect be restored, thus allowing love to rekindle? I’ve personally encountered situations where respect was lost, only to realize that respect had never existed from the outset. Determining whether someone respects you remains a puzzle.
I’ve experienced the consequences of insufficient respect – I know what happens when a seemingly an affectionate partnership crumbles because respect is lost by one side is lost. I wonder though have any of my relationships ever had the respect that is needed to foster true love. I would venture to speculate the answer is no. And somehow that is extremely sad.
