Three things I need to come to terms with:
- If they wanted to, they would:
- As a child, I once asked my Father to fix my bicycle so I could ride it, and he assured me he would. However, he never followed through. Years later, while cleaning out the storage area, he found my broken bicycle and asked if I still wanted him to fix it. By then, I had outgrown riding a bicycle. If someone promises to do something and fails to follow through, it really does mean they didn’t want to do it, or they would have.
- No Response is a response:
- The absence of a response is a clear “No.” Instead of coming up excuses or trying to justify their lack of response, it’s important to recognize that they didn’t respond because they couldn’t find a way to say “no” directly.
- Not everyone shares the same values, goals, or heart:
- It’s important to remember that people may not hold the same values or pursue identical goals as I do. I shouldn’t take it personally when someone doesn’t place the same importance on the things I hold dear. Whether it’s something significant to me, my goals, or my passion for something, I must safeguard what matters to me , I need to protect it from harm. The same principle applies to goals—just because I desire and work toward something doesn’t necessarily mean it holds the same significance for someone else. Similarly, having a deep emotional connection to something doesn’t guarantee that others feel the same way.
In listing these points, I aim to remind myself that everyone is an individual, and these differences do not imply any wrongdoing on the part of others; they are simply different.